Pleasure is dependent on others. If you love a woman, if that is pleasure, than woman become your master. If you love a man if that is your pleasure and you feel unhappy without him- than you have created bondage yourself. You have created prison, you are no longer in freedom. If you are a seeker after money or power , than you will be dependent on money or power. The man who goes on accumalating money, will become more and more measurable. Because the more he has, more he wants and the more he is afraid to loose it.